There are certain movies I will never sit through again. Some are obvious--"Sophie's Choice," "Schindler's List," and "Boys Don't Cry." But the saddest movie ever, and I saw it very young, was Leo McCarey's 1937 drama "Make Way For Tomorrow."
Based on Josephine Lawrence's 1937 novel, "The Years Are So Long,' the movie tells the story of an elderly couple, played brilliantly by Victor Moore and Beulah Bondi. Not wanting to worry their grown children, they wait to tell them, over a family dinner, that the house they are living in is being foreclosed and they have nowhere to go. The children are horrified but come through--sort of. When it becomes apparent that the couple's presence imposes on the children's lifestyles, tensions erupt, and a solution is found, with tragic consequences. A daughter living in California has agreed to take her father, but her mother will have to stay with one of the children on the East coast, thus separating them permanently.
But not before they both get a little of their own back. On the last day together, the children have planned a huge dinner for them. The father makes a pay call in a phone booth, saying they will not be there for dinner, they would rather be by themselves, and what a rotten bunch of no-good kids he and his wife raised!
Which brings us to the most heartbreaking part of the film. The couple decide to revisit the hotel where they had their honeymoon fifty years ago. When the management and staff see the couple, and hear their story, they are treated like royalty, culminating in a dance sequence to what was once their song, "Let Me Call You Sweetheart." I shall never think of that song in the same way again. As time closes in, the heartbreak of the couple having to live apart becomes more real.
The farewell at the train station is too much. They act bravely, believing they will see each other again, knowing they will not. As the train leaves the station and Beaulah Bondi waves, with the strains of 'Sweetheart' on the soundtrack, I broke down and sobbed for about 15 minutes. Most people would. Beautiful as this film is, I could never see it again.
However--Variations on this film have been made twice. The first was in 1950, with a renowned Japanese film called "Tokyo Story." When I found out what it was, I refused to see it. Then, in 2014, in a gay context, Alfred Molina and John Lithgow played the couple in a film called "Love Is Strange," which ends in both separation and death. I could not bear to see it.
"Make Way For Tomorrow," in 1937 was made the same year Leo McCarey made the comedy "The Awful Truth." He was awarded the Oscar for the latter, but in his speech said he felt he was given it for "the wrong movie."
If you haven't seen "Make Way For Tomorrow," I strongly urge you to. But I can guarantee you will not want to see it again.
This film is just too painful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!